Over the years I have realized that time by yourself allows you to get to know yourself. When you are around others we are more prone to compare ourselves to our peers. Or we began to model ourselves behind someone else. You were fearfully, wonderfully and uniquely created, set apart. We are not meant to be just like anyone else. Carbon copies are meant for paper not people.
Take time for yourself get to know you what you like what you don’t like. Learn your ways what annoys you and what makes you smile. Discover your favorite past times, explore a new area in your city, find a new hobby, learn you. If you spend all your time with someone else be it a friend a significant other you will never know yourself and who you are without the addition of someone else.
I know people who have never been without a mate, they don’t know themselves without having a partner. The sad thing is I don’t know them without that significant other.
Allow yourself and the people around you to get to know the real true you.
So many times we hear from doctors and medical professionals that after the age of 35 women are more at risk for producing children with physical and mental disabilities. I didn’t realize until now that this statement affected my thoughts about not wanting children. After years of putting my life on hold and assisting with raising my nieces and nephew I had thoughts of not having children. It was hard for me to considering having my own children because of some of the difficulties that came along with my nieces, and the fact that I was single Sally for so long and still am single. As each year goes by and I get older or more mature as I like to say, I see everyone around me having children getting married creating families and most of them are younger than me. Over the past 5 years baby fever has definitely hit me hard, the problem is I’m still single. I’m happy being me just waiting for the right person.
At this point in time most women would say their biological clock is ticking and they need to hurry up and have children. I believe that God will allow it all to happen in His timing.
For the women out there who are watching that biological clock you’re wasting time, focus on what’s positive in your life, your career,hobbies,great friends and family, god-child and most importantly your relationship with God. God will provide in His timing,prayer and faith should be your focus not watching a biological clock.
Sometimes being transparent can help others deal with the situations they are dealing with, because nine times out of ten our life situations are similar.
Delay is not denial, and denied doesn’t mean God hasn’t prepared something greater for you. Growing up I have been dreaming, wishing, hoping, and praying for the day when I would have the dream job and the dream husband. Now as that I have reached an age when I thought it would have happened already or would be happening it makes me think where did I go wrong or what have I been doing that is so wrong. Then I think about all the women who didn’t do the right things, who did everything the unconventional way and have kids and great jobs and husbands. Then I stand here confused, bewildered just really not understanding where my life is headed.
As many people who I have around me who love me, encourage, and motivate me I still sometimes feel like life sucks sometimes and I don’t have anything I desire in life. I am constantly praying for things to change and get better. People always ask who I am dating or where is my man but never have they tried to hook me up with anyone either, So I wonder is the concern genuine or not. Then other’s who always ask about my state of employment or if I finished that book or started that business. Sometimes it’s like, if I haven’t told you it hasn’t happened or if I haven’t told you it because I don’t desire for you to know.
I just know that life comes with ups and downs you take the good with the bad. At the end of the day, live your life for you not the expectations of others. Don’t date a man or woman because they look like a fit and will please your friends and family don’t forget about you. Don’t wait for the beginning of a new year to do something you always wanted let the idea spark cause you to move forward with your goals period.
I CONTINUE TO SURROUND MYSELF WITH THOSE WHO’S MOTIVATION, MOTIVATES ME TO STAY MOTIVATED AND MOVE FORWARD WITH MY GOALS!!!
You gave to make a decision to surround yourself with positive go getter people if that is what you desire to be. Ask questions don’t be ashamed or afraid of the unknown. I use to be afraid to ask questions but I got a revelation that if you don’t ask you won’t ever know. It can be a difficult task but it’s well worth it to sift your friends like wheat. I made it my business to only surround myself with those who are like-minded or better minded (laughing but serious) than myself. That way they can show me I can ask questions I can grow and move forward. The people around me also motivate me, encourage, me tell me the truth especially when they know it will hurt my feeling but assist in my growth. Don’t be surprised if you are no longer on my list of people who I communicate with on a regular basis. I mean let’s be real you already know who you are because you don’t have my best interest at heart. It’s okay move on with your life know that I’m praying for you.
As for those of you who are my rocks, my cheerleaders, and I am yours lets keep moving forward, praying, encouraging, motivating, pushing and truth-telling so that we may all excel in life.
You have the power to decide how your day and the rest of your week will go so use that power PRAY!!! Prayer is so imperative to your life, your conversations with God can make you a stronger person. You can talk to someone who is always listening and willing to assist you in your daily challeneges. Don’t wait until things get difficult or challenging pray before they get there and you can handle it with ease. Try it, try praying every morning before you do anything else and praying at night after all is done before you close your eyes and then let me know how things go. If you aren’t sure how to pray where to begin here is a blueprint for praying Matthew 6:9-13 Our Father who is in heaven, Hallowed be your name . Your kingdom come your will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our delay bread. And forgive us our debts as we have forgiven our debtors [letting go of both the wrong and the resentment]. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. AMEN !!!
Pray your way into a better Day