So many times we hear from doctors and medical professionals that after the age of 35 women are more at risk for producing children with physical and mental disabilities. I didn’t realize until now that this statement affected my thoughts about not wanting children. After years of putting my life on hold and assisting with raising my nieces and nephew I had thoughts of not having children. It was hard for me to considering having my own children because of some of the difficulties that came along with my nieces, and the fact that I was single Sally for so long and still am single. As each year goes by and I get older or more mature as I like to say, I see everyone around me having children getting married creating families and most of them are younger than me. Over the past 5 years baby fever has definitely hit me hard, the problem is I’m still single. I’m happy being me just waiting for the right person.
At this point in time most women would say their biological clock is ticking and they need to hurry up and have children. I believe that God will allow it all to happen in His timing.
For the women out there who are watching that biological clock you’re wasting time, focus on what’s positive in your life, your career,hobbies,great friends and family, god-child and most importantly your relationship with God. God will provide in His timing,prayer and faith should be your focus not watching a biological clock.
Sometimes being transparent can help others deal with the situations they are dealing with, because nine times out of ten our life situations are similar.
Delay is not denial, and denied doesn’t mean God hasn’t prepared something greater for you. Growing up I have been dreaming, wishing, hoping, and praying for the day when I would have the dream job and the dream husband. Now as that I have reached an age when I thought it would have happened already or would be happening it makes me think where did I go wrong or what have I been doing that is so wrong. Then I think about all the women who didn’t do the right things, who did everything the unconventional way and have kids and great jobs and husbands. Then I stand here confused, bewildered just really not understanding where my life is headed.
As many people who I have around me who love me, encourage, and motivate me I still sometimes feel like life sucks sometimes and I don’t have anything I desire in life. I am constantly praying for things to change and get better. People always ask who I am dating or where is my man but never have they tried to hook me up with anyone either, So I wonder is the concern genuine or not. Then other’s who always ask about my state of employment or if I finished that book or started that business. Sometimes it’s like, if I haven’t told you it hasn’t happened or if I haven’t told you it because I don’t desire for you to know.
I just know that life comes with ups and downs you take the good with the bad. At the end of the day, live your life for you not the expectations of others. Don’t date a man or woman because they look like a fit and will please your friends and family don’t forget about you. Don’t wait for the beginning of a new year to do something you always wanted let the idea spark cause you to move forward with your goals period.
Today marks two years of blogging. I am proud of myself for the consistent content that I have produced. I enjoy writing and sharing my life and the things around me. I know my listening ear and sharing my experience prior to blogging helped people around me. I thought merging the two would be even more of a help to others. I am grateful to those of you who have supported and continue to support my blog. I look forward to sharing my upcoming endeavors with you all.
Keep coming back more encouraging, motivational, inspirational and fashionable blog posts are to come. As I grow and change you I hope that you will change and grow too.
So many people look for love in so many of the wrong people and places. There are also times when people think that certain negative actions are deemed as love. I know there are many who didn’t grow up in a loving home. My mother constantly told me and showed me love as well as extended family and friends. Thanks to my upbringing I know what love looks and feels like. I bet you are wondering where I am going with this talk about love. Well I just want to remind you that the Greatest Love of All is God!!!
Romans 5:8 But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
This morning as I was driving to work I listened to Kierra Sheards song indescribable, it was a live version. There is a part where she says “You saw the depths of my heart and you love me the same, you are amazing God.” Tears streamed down my face because I thought about how I have thought, felt and done things in my life that God doesn’t approve of but His love for me doesn’t change. His love is so unconditional His love never wavers. If you think about it so many of the most successful people that have lived on earth have some of the most jacked up past lives, but God. God sustained them loved the hell right out of them and turned them in to some of His Best work. We need to know if we are willing vessels He can do the same with us.
Titus 3:4-5 But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit.
It’s so great when you believe and trust in a God who will love you, protect you, give to you, provide for you even when you have failed or messed up, when your heart wasn’t right. The mistake that many people make is thinking they have to get themselves together to go to God. NOPE! He said come as you are, and He loves you right where you are in life.
1 Corinthians 13:7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
So stop looking for validation in man, stop expecting a man or woman to love you the way God loves you. Your parents are the only ones who come close to loving you like God, but guess what they are human just like you which means there may be some conditons to their love. It’s important to love self and learn to embrace yourself flaws and all. Allow God to show you what true love and that good love on earth will come your way.
Psalm 136:2 Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever.
We have all experienced it at one point in time in life. We have all had those insecure moments something just wasn’t what you desired it to be. Whether it is your skin, weight, clothes, hair even your personality may not have been what you wanted, but something about you has always been admired by someone. Each and everyone of us can find something about someone else that we love and they may hate. It’s amazing how we all have been uniquely created in the image of God which is Great and Beautiful. Which means we all have something great and beautiful about ourselves. Somethings we can change or improve in a healthy manner, other things aren’t worth it and need to be embraced. Somethings are meant to be just the way God created it to be, even if it isn’t that great to us.
Let’s take me for example, I love my legs they have always been thick and strong. Being a dancer since the age of 3 has giving me a great and graceful stride. I love the shape of my calves and I am bowlegged which is a hint of my mother and paternal grandmother. I have a fat stomach which can be changed with a healthier diet and exercise, it goes up and down, because hey, let’s be real I like to eat. I still actively dance which forces me to be active and not just sit eat and be obese and sick. I have never really thought I had a cool personality but some people gravitate to me and love being around me. It’s some people I always thought were so cool have these magnetic personalities and I wanted to be like them. It’s some people who were cool with the real me and when they saw me trying to be like someone else they became less of a friend and more of an associate. That was definitely a growing process for me. I was always trying to be like someone else and not staying 100% to myself. Yet, the older I get the more I learn me and the more I embrace who I am, and embrace those who like me. Now as for those who don’t like me I don’t worry about.
I hope me being transparent allows you to look at yourself and find something that you love and embrace about yourself. I also hope you can find one thing that you can change and improve in a healthy manner. Last but not least one thing that you struggled with embracing but others already liked about you. It’s all about being true to yourself and not questioning if you are like someone else but questioning if you are being yourself.