Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

So many people look for love in so many of the wrong people and places. There are also times when people think that certain negative actions are deemed as love. I know there are many who didn’t grow up in a loving home. My mother constantly told me and showed me love as well as extended family and friends. Thanks to my upbringing I know what love looks and feels like. I bet you are wondering where I am going with this talk about love. Well I just want to remind you that the Greatest Love of All is God!!!

Romans 5:8  But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

This morning as I was driving to work I listened to Kierra Sheards song indescribable, it was a live version. There is a part where she says “You saw the depths of my heart and you love me the same, you are amazing God.” Tears streamed down my face because I thought about how I have thought, felt and done things in my life that God doesn’t approve of but His love for me doesn’t change. His love is so unconditional His love never wavers. If you think about it so many of the most successful people that have lived on earth have some of the most jacked up past lives, but God. God sustained them loved the hell right out of them and turned them in to some of His Best work. We need to know if we are willing vessels He can do the same with us.

Titus 3:4-5  But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit.

It’s so great when you believe and trust in a God who will love you, protect you, give to you, provide for you even when you have failed or messed up, when your heart wasn’t right. The mistake that many people make is thinking they have to get themselves together to go to God. NOPE! He said come as you are, and He loves you right where you are in life.

1 Corinthians 13:7  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

So stop looking for validation in man, stop expecting a man or woman to love you the way God loves you. Your parents are the only ones who come close to loving you like God, but guess what they are human just like you which means there may be some conditons to their love. It’s important to love self and learn to embrace yourself flaws and all. Allow God to show you what true love and that good love on earth will come your way.

Psalm 136:2  Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever.

Embrace The Real You

We have all experienced it at one point in time in life. We have all had those insecure moments something just wasn’t what you desired it to be. Whether it is your skin, weight, clothes, hair even your personality may not have been what you wanted, but something about you has always been admired by someone. Each and everyone of us can find something about someone else that we love and they may hate. It’s amazing how we all have been uniquely created in the image of God which is Great and Beautiful. Which means we all have something great and beautiful about ourselves. Somethings we can change or improve in a healthy manner, other things aren’t worth it and need to be embraced. Somethings are meant to be just the way God created it to be, even if it isn’t that great to us.

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Let’s take me for example, I love my legs they have always been thick and strong. Being a dancer since the age of 3 has giving me a great and graceful stride. I love the shape of my calves and I am bowlegged which is a hint of my mother and paternal grandmother. I have a fat stomach which can be changed with a healthier diet and exercise, it goes up and down, because hey, let’s be real I like to eat. I still actively dance which forces me to be active and not just sit eat and be obese and sick. I have never really thought I had a cool personality but some people gravitate to me and love being around me. It’s some people I always thought were so cool have these magnetic personalities and I wanted to be like them. It’s some people who were cool with the real me and when they saw me trying to be like someone else they became less of a friend and more of an associate. That was definitely a growing process for me. I was always trying to be like someone else and not staying 100% to myself. Yet, the older I get the more I learn me and the more I embrace who I am, and embrace those who like me. Now as for those who don’t like me I don’t worry about.

I hope me being transparent allows you to look at yourself and find something that you love and embrace about yourself. I also hope you can find one thing that you can change and improve in a healthy manner. Last but not least one thing that you struggled with embracing but others already liked about you. It’s all about being true to yourself and not questioning if you are like someone else but questioning if you are being yourself.

Ya’ll can have Trump, I’m going w/ The Obama’s

It’s been an emotional day but a great 8 years. I am so excited that an African Amercian family from south side of Chicago occupied The White House for eight years without a scandal. The entire Family has made me so proud. We have had great times and bad times with The Obama’s in office. It’s the hardest pill to swallow, that the first family is leaving the White House. I have been proud, inspired, and motivated especially by POTUS AND FLOTUS. They both have helped me and so many others see that we can accomplish anything we desire. Of course I’m sad as they depart but The Obama’s in the White House will forever be a motivating force for me. I don’t agree, just like many other Americans with DT being elected as President but it’s life. So for the next 4 years: “Ya’ll can have Trump, I’m going w/ The Obama’s. 

Styling from work to date night

Styling from work to date night

 


Johanna Ortiz wrap top
modaoperandi.com

Bally green sweater
farfetch.com

Givenchy crop top
$655 – montaignemarket.com

Leka real leather jacket
wolfandbadger.com

Delpozo white pants
$1,540 – farfetch.com

Boohoo sport pants
boohoo.com

Wide leg pants
luxurydivas.com

Chloé black booties
$320 – fashionette.co.uk

Alexander Wang high heel shoes
$480 – stylebop.com

Givenchy cross body handbag
$2,000 – tessabit.com

Yves saint laurent bag
$780 – nathalieschuterman.com

Âme moi leather purse
$455 – selfridges.com

Syna gold earrings
$8,815 – jewelstreet.com

Yves Saint Laurent resin jewelry
$470 – brownsfashion.com

Chanel vintage jewelry
designer-vault.com

Gorjana chain necklace
$85 – shopbop.com

Rest Don’t Quit !!!


I had a totally different topic to share with you all, today but as I was scrolling through Instagram I saw this quote “If you get tired, Learn to rest, Not quit” posted by Niecy Nash. I know May of us go through days and times where we just feel like it would be easier to just quit, give up,throw in the towel, but that’s not the answer.  We get in our feelings, all emotional and then we sometimes make a mistake and let it go.  10 times out of 10 we are better off just taking a break, putting things on pause and resting than just giving up.

Quitting should never be an option, remember quitters never win. How will you ever complete anything or get to the finish line if you just quit. Quitting only works with bad relationships and bad jobs. You can always find or create another job and trust me there is someone better for you if that man or woman didn’t treat you right.

Resting is essential to the process of winning. Many times our bodies and minds need rest. So we need to listen to that voice so we can rest and rejuvenate ourselves for the next leg of the race. Listen to your body it tells you when it needs rest. You mind will go into overload when you don’t give it a break.

I’m saying all of this just to reiterate the quote “If you get tired, Learn to Rest, Not Quit” !!!