I know many of you have heard the saying “Bloom where you are planted.” This saying is perfect for the spring time, simply because this is the time of year flowers bloom. Sometimes there are new seeds planted some bloom up from previously being planted.
We all have seeds planted within us and there is a time for them to bloom. Some of us try to bloom to early becauae we see the progress of others around us. You must realize its a time for roses, tulips, carnations, lilys etc. Don’t be envious of early bloomers. Know that proper timing and watering will allow you to bloom when you are suppose to bloom.We can apply this way of thinking to multiple areas of life.
Also remember not to uproot your self because you are not blooming as fast as you would like. Having patience for growth is key to a beautiful bloom. In addition, consider that the good and the bad around you contributes to your growth. Allow the Son (Sun) to shine on you, also be receptive of the watering it helps to promote your growth. Others speaking positivity into your life symbolizes the water which cultivates your growth and blooming into what you are suppose to be.
I needed that break, I needed to clear my mind take care of me refocus ,but I’m back like I never left. Thank you all for bearing with me, and I appreciate those of you who are still rocking with me.
As the year comes to an end I’m in a place where I’m ending certain things and preparing to start new things. This is not because it’s the end of the year it’s just because it’s much-needed in my life. Sometimes that’s what a little me time will do for you, give you clarity. Sometimes that break will give you the option to remove things that aren’t necessary and make room for what you desire.
I hope you all will continue this ride with me.
FYI that book is coming soon 🙂
Merry Christmas , Happy Hanukkah, and Happy Kwanzaa
Until next time
One of my favorite television shows had me thinking last night. Being Mary Jane always has me thinking, but last night man I got a revelation. When Many Jane realized that her issues with men and her relationships stemmed from her mother, man that hit home. I always knew that our parents relationships had an affect on how we date and future relationships. It was something about last night that made me realized how much my choice in men is affected by my mother’s complaints about my dad. My mother named me A’Teirrah to be the opposite of her so I wouldn’t do the same things as her fyi my mother’s name is Harriet if you pay close attention to the spelling of our names you’ll get it.
My parents divorced when I was 3 and my mother always says she feels like she rushed into a relationship and marriage with my dad. Her mother made her feel as though if she didn’t marry my dad that she really wouldn’t have much of a choice of men. My mother always says to me don’t make the same mistake I did. It’s not that my mother didn’t love my dad they were married for 11 years. It was just some of my dads ways she couldn’t live with anymore which caused the divorce. My mother just wants me to be careful who I choose to make that lifetime commitment of marriage with. Another thing about it all is that I try so hard to pick someone who doesn’t have the negative characteristics of my dad I forget to look for someone who encompasses the positive characteristics.
I noticed that every time I meet a guy I weed them out based on some similar characteristic to my dad, I realized that sometimes I don’t give guys a chance. Then I have those moments where I say hey give the next guy a chance and then it feels like I’m giving the wrong guy a chance and weeding out the ones that should have a chance. So then I wonder do I give every guy that takes interest or is potential a chance, this dating thing is a challenge.
Everyone has advice. I have asked my brother’s my friends, my family , I have read the books listen to the ministers prayed and fasted I’ve done it all. I’ve tried speed dating, online dating etc, I’ve even taking breaks to make sure I am ready to be courted and to be married. Am I going too stop trying different avenues probably not because you just never know how you will meet the one. One thing is for sure I will never pursue, I’m just not that kind of woman. I will make myself available, I will show interest but never will I pursue a man.
I will keep waiting because I refuse to settle for less than what I know God will provide.