EVERY CLAP BACK DOESN’T HAVE TO BE NEGATIVE!!!

People will say and do things that will annoy you and get under your skin. I just allowed a situation to bother me and get under my skin, I allowed it to mess with my joy. I had to pause, and pray. I wasn’t mu normal silly happy go lucky self. As much as I want to go off and curse, I know it won’t solve the problem it won’t change what has already occurred. After conversing with my sisters and realized I wasn’t alone in my feelings I felt better. I can now give a positive clap back and let it go, besides its Friday Summer time Chi, Im trying to enjoy myself and I don’t need negative distractions. Just remember “Every clap back doesn’t have to be negative”. Respond it Peace so you can keep your peace. 

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Embracing Me and The Summer !!!

I’ve spent so many years of my life doing for others and being there for others.  Which I will never stop doing because that’s the woman God created me to be giving, loyal , caring and considerate. I love helping others, it’s such a rewarding feeling. Although I have to know how to balance being there for others and being there for myself. I’ve made it my mission to embrace this summer not only with the great things that Chicago offers but a little traveling as well. I need to have my own fun. I encourage you all to make time this summer to embrace time for self and do something, better yet somethings you’ve been wanting to do. I love myself now more than I ever have in life, I feel beautiful inside and out. I am embracing all of me and this summer and life in front of me.

Summer I’m  COMING FOR YOU FULL FORCE !!! 
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SPRING CLEANING

Many times in life we spend so much time holding on to something or someone that we should have let go a long time ago. We spend time thinking about that thing or person trying to figure how how to make it continue to fit into the life we live. We must realize that energy and time is being wasted. Don’t allow these things or people to consume you it’s time to fully let them go. Don’t partially hang on trying to convince yourself that they are worth holding on to you need to “Let Go and Let God.” I know all to well how it feels, I’ve done it to myself several times.  I realize that I am doing nothing but hurting myself even more than before. So these things that don’t benefit you, get rid of them clothes you can’t wear or “fit” give them to good will or the thrift store. Those toxic people or the ones just taking up space it’s okay to let them go. If you have to question whether or not they are worth keeping 9 times out of 10 they are not worth it. 

Free yourself of anything that could be blocking your blessings. We tend to block our blessing because we don’t have room for them. When we release those things or people then we make room for God’s blessing you with who or what you need and desire.

So get to it, Don’t delay any longer it’s time for Spring Cleaning .

Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

So many people look for love in so many of the wrong people and places. There are also times when people think that certain negative actions are deemed as love. I know there are many who didn’t grow up in a loving home. My mother constantly told me and showed me love as well as extended family and friends. Thanks to my upbringing I know what love looks and feels like. I bet you are wondering where I am going with this talk about love. Well I just want to remind you that the Greatest Love of All is God!!!

Romans 5:8  But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

This morning as I was driving to work I listened to Kierra Sheards song indescribable, it was a live version. There is a part where she says “You saw the depths of my heart and you love me the same, you are amazing God.” Tears streamed down my face because I thought about how I have thought, felt and done things in my life that God doesn’t approve of but His love for me doesn’t change. His love is so unconditional His love never wavers. If you think about it so many of the most successful people that have lived on earth have some of the most jacked up past lives, but God. God sustained them loved the hell right out of them and turned them in to some of His Best work. We need to know if we are willing vessels He can do the same with us.

Titus 3:4-5  But when the goodness and loving kindness of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit.

It’s so great when you believe and trust in a God who will love you, protect you, give to you, provide for you even when you have failed or messed up, when your heart wasn’t right. The mistake that many people make is thinking they have to get themselves together to go to God. NOPE! He said come as you are, and He loves you right where you are in life.

1 Corinthians 13:7  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

So stop looking for validation in man, stop expecting a man or woman to love you the way God loves you. Your parents are the only ones who come close to loving you like God, but guess what they are human just like you which means there may be some conditons to their love. It’s important to love self and learn to embrace yourself flaws and all. Allow God to show you what true love and that good love on earth will come your way.

Psalm 136:2  Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever.

Embrace The Real You

We have all experienced it at one point in time in life. We have all had those insecure moments something just wasn’t what you desired it to be. Whether it is your skin, weight, clothes, hair even your personality may not have been what you wanted, but something about you has always been admired by someone. Each and everyone of us can find something about someone else that we love and they may hate. It’s amazing how we all have been uniquely created in the image of God which is Great and Beautiful. Which means we all have something great and beautiful about ourselves. Somethings we can change or improve in a healthy manner, other things aren’t worth it and need to be embraced. Somethings are meant to be just the way God created it to be, even if it isn’t that great to us.

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Let’s take me for example, I love my legs they have always been thick and strong. Being a dancer since the age of 3 has giving me a great and graceful stride. I love the shape of my calves and I am bowlegged which is a hint of my mother and paternal grandmother. I have a fat stomach which can be changed with a healthier diet and exercise, it goes up and down, because hey, let’s be real I like to eat. I still actively dance which forces me to be active and not just sit eat and be obese and sick. I have never really thought I had a cool personality but some people gravitate to me and love being around me. It’s some people I always thought were so cool have these magnetic personalities and I wanted to be like them. It’s some people who were cool with the real me and when they saw me trying to be like someone else they became less of a friend and more of an associate. That was definitely a growing process for me. I was always trying to be like someone else and not staying 100% to myself. Yet, the older I get the more I learn me and the more I embrace who I am, and embrace those who like me. Now as for those who don’t like me I don’t worry about.

I hope me being transparent allows you to look at yourself and find something that you love and embrace about yourself. I also hope you can find one thing that you can change and improve in a healthy manner. Last but not least one thing that you struggled with embracing but others already liked about you. It’s all about being true to yourself and not questioning if you are like someone else but questioning if you are being yourself.