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I’m Baaack

im back

I needed that break, I needed to clear my mind take care of me refocus ,but I’m back like I never left. Thank you all for bearing with me, and I appreciate those of you who are still rocking with me.

As the year comes to an end I’m in a place where I’m ending certain things and preparing to start new things. This is not because it’s the end of the year it’s just because it’s much-needed in my life. Sometimes that’s what a little me time will do for you, give you clarity. Sometimes that break will give you the option to remove things that aren’t necessary and make room for what you desire.

I hope you all will continue this ride with me.

FYI that book is coming soon 🙂

Merry Christmas , Happy Hanukkah, and Happy Kwanzaa

Until next time

 

 

Being Transparent (How does your parents relationship affect your dating life)?

One of my favorite television shows had me thinking last night. Being Mary Jane always has me thinking, but last night man I got a revelation. When Many Jane realized that her issues with men and her relationships stemmed from her mother, man that hit home. I always knew that our parents relationships had an affect on how we date and future relationships. It was something about last night that made me realized how much my choice in men is affected by my mother’s complaints about my dad. My mother named me A’Teirrah to be the opposite of her so I wouldn’t do the same things as her fyi my mother’s name is Harriet if you pay close attention to the spelling of our names you’ll get it.

My parents divorced when I was 3 and my mother always says she feels like she rushed into a relationship and marriage with my dad. Her mother made her feel as though if she didn’t marry my dad that she really wouldn’t have much of a choice of men. My mother always says to me don’t make the same mistake I did. It’s not that my mother didn’t love my dad they were married for 11 years. It was just some of my dads ways she couldn’t live with anymore which caused the divorce. My mother just wants me to be careful who I choose to make that lifetime commitment of marriage with. Another thing about it all is that I try so hard to pick someone who doesn’t have the negative characteristics of my dad I forget to look for someone who encompasses the positive characteristics.

I noticed that every time I meet a guy I weed them out based on some similar characteristic to my dad, I realized that sometimes I don’t give guys a chance. Then I have those moments where I say hey give the next guy a chance and then it feels like I’m giving the wrong guy a chance and weeding out the ones that should have a chance. So then I wonder do I give every guy that takes interest or is potential a chance, this dating thing is a challenge.

Everyone has advice. I have asked my brother’s my friends, my family , I have read the books listen to the ministers prayed and fasted I’ve done it all. I’ve tried speed dating, online dating etc, I’ve even taking breaks to make sure I am ready to be courted and to be married.  Am I going too stop trying different avenues probably not because you just never know how you will meet the one. One thing is for sure I will never pursue, I’m just not that kind of woman. I will make myself available, I will show interest but never will I pursue a man.

I will keep waiting because I refuse to settle for less than what I know God will provide.

2 Years !!!!

Today marks two years of blogging. I am proud of myself for the consistent content that I have produced. I enjoy writing and sharing my life and the things around me. I know my listening ear and sharing my experience prior to blogging helped people around me. I thought merging the two would be even more of a help to others. I am grateful to those of you who have supported and continue to support my blog. I look forward to sharing my upcoming endeavors with you all.

Keep coming back more encouraging, motivational, inspirational and fashionable blog posts are to come. As I grow and change you I hope that you will change and grow too.

 

An off the Shoulder Summer!!!

An off the Shoulder Summer!!!

WearAll peplum dress
$23 – wearall.com

Alexandre Birman heeled sandals
shop.harpersbazaar.com

Charlotte Russe nude shoes
charlotterusse.com

Wild Diva stiletto shoes
nordstromrack.com

Gucci purse
snobswap.com

Shoulder handbag
watereverysunday.com

Chain purse
$19 – very.co.uk

Gold earrings
applesofgold.com

Hammered earrings
judithbright.com

Stud earrings
metisu.com

Embracing Me and The Summer !!!

I’ve spent so many years of my life doing for others and being there for others.  Which I will never stop doing because that’s the woman God created me to be giving, loyal , caring and considerate. I love helping others, it’s such a rewarding feeling. Although I have to know how to balance being there for others and being there for myself. I’ve made it my mission to embrace this summer not only with the great things that Chicago offers but a little traveling as well. I need to have my own fun. I encourage you all to make time this summer to embrace time for self and do something, better yet somethings you’ve been wanting to do. I love myself now more than I ever have in life, I feel beautiful inside and out. I am embracing all of me and this summer and life in front of me.

Summer I’m  COMING FOR YOU FULL FORCE !!! 
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Spring Friday Night

Spring Friday Night

Valentino tailored shirt
matchesfashion.com

Mackage leather jacket
$840 – bloomingdales.com

Topshop high waisted jeans
$49 – topshop.com

Raye block heel sandals
$190 – revolve.com

Chanel quilted handbag
$1,445 – 1stdibs.com

Lack of Color fedora hat
$190 – luisaviaroma.com