Over the years I have realized that time by yourself allows you to get to know yourself. When you are around others we are more prone to compare ourselves to our peers. Or we began to model ourselves behind someone else. You were fearfully, wonderfully and uniquely created, set apart. We are not meant to be just like anyone else. Carbon copies are meant for paper not people.
Take time for yourself get to know you what you like what you don’t like. Learn your ways what annoys you and what makes you smile. Discover your favorite past times, explore a new area in your city, find a new hobby, learn you. If you spend all your time with someone else be it a friend a significant other you will never know yourself and who you are without the addition of someone else.
I know people who have never been without a mate, they don’t know themselves without having a partner. The sad thing is I don’t know them without that significant other.
Allow yourself and the people around you to get to know the real true you.
So many times we hear from doctors and medical professionals that after the age of 35 women are more at risk for producing children with physical and mental disabilities. I didn’t realize until now that this statement affected my thoughts about not wanting children. After years of putting my life on hold and assisting with raising my nieces and nephew I had thoughts of not having children. It was hard for me to considering having my own children because of some of the difficulties that came along with my nieces, and the fact that I was single Sally for so long and still am single. As each year goes by and I get older or more mature as I like to say, I see everyone around me having children getting married creating families and most of them are younger than me. Over the past 5 years baby fever has definitely hit me hard, the problem is I’m still single. I’m happy being me just waiting for the right person.
At this point in time most women would say their biological clock is ticking and they need to hurry up and have children. I believe that God will allow it all to happen in His timing.
For the women out there who are watching that biological clock you’re wasting time, focus on what’s positive in your life, your career,hobbies,great friends and family, god-child and most importantly your relationship with God. God will provide in His timing,prayer and faith should be your focus not watching a biological clock.
The Phenomenal Woman Maya Angelou would have been 90 years old today. Honoring a woman who inspired me to write and to be a strong positive woman that’s a force to be reckoned with.
I know many of you have heard the saying “Bloom where you are planted.” This saying is perfect for the spring time, simply because this is the time of year flowers bloom. Sometimes there are new seeds planted some bloom up from previously being planted.
We all have seeds planted within us and there is a time for them to bloom. Some of us try to bloom to early becauae we see the progress of others around us. You must realize its a time for roses, tulips, carnations, lilys etc. Don’t be envious of early bloomers. Know that proper timing and watering will allow you to bloom when you are suppose to bloom.We can apply this way of thinking to multiple areas of life.
Also remember not to uproot your self because you are not blooming as fast as you would like. Having patience for growth is key to a beautiful bloom. In addition, consider that the good and the bad around you contributes to your growth. Allow the Son (Sun) to shine on you, also be receptive of the watering it helps to promote your growth. Others speaking positivity into your life symbolizes the water which cultivates your growth and blooming into what you are suppose to be.
You have to set yourself up for success by keeping that poison out of your life. If your friends are all negative, tend to compromise, or settle for mediocrity, it’s time to get some new friends.
Spending time with successful people,you will become successful. Choose your friends carefully so you can set yourself up for success and be equipped to move forward in the destiny God has prepared for you!
Sometimes being transparent can help others deal with the situations they are dealing with, because nine times out of ten our life situations are similar.
Delay is not denial, and denied doesn’t mean God hasn’t prepared something greater for you. Growing up I have been dreaming, wishing, hoping, and praying for the day when I would have the dream job and the dream husband. Now as that I have reached an age when I thought it would have happened already or would be happening it makes me think where did I go wrong or what have I been doing that is so wrong. Then I think about all the women who didn’t do the right things, who did everything the unconventional way and have kids and great jobs and husbands. Then I stand here confused, bewildered just really not understanding where my life is headed.
As many people who I have around me who love me, encourage, and motivate me I still sometimes feel like life sucks sometimes and I don’t have anything I desire in life. I am constantly praying for things to change and get better. People always ask who I am dating or where is my man but never have they tried to hook me up with anyone either, So I wonder is the concern genuine or not. Then other’s who always ask about my state of employment or if I finished that book or started that business. Sometimes it’s like, if I haven’t told you it hasn’t happened or if I haven’t told you it because I don’t desire for you to know.
I just know that life comes with ups and downs you take the good with the bad. At the end of the day, live your life for you not the expectations of others. Don’t date a man or woman because they look like a fit and will please your friends and family don’t forget about you. Don’t wait for the beginning of a new year to do something you always wanted let the idea spark cause you to move forward with your goals period.